First we looked at when to
we followed up with some more
answers. And yet, more answers led to
more questions, particularly about the Promise Ring.
A promise ring is mostly symbolic, a token of the promise that you are making.
The actual ring itself does not need to be specifically designed for the
purpose of making the promise, although these are certainly available.
To try and make things clearer I will refer to examples of Promise Rings in
popular culture. In an episode of The Simpsons (Season 3, I Married Marge),
Marge’s wedding ring is re-possessed and Homer eventually replaces it with an
Onion Ring from the Gulp ‘N Blow where he is working to make money to support
Marge, who is pregnant with Bart. (He promptly removes the onion ring and eats
it as it is burning her finger).
In this example, Homer used the onion ring as a symbolic representation of a
real ring to reinforce the promise he had made to Marge. It was a promise
In The O.C., Kirsten hides her wedding ring for some stupid reason and tells
Sandy that she thinks it is stuck down the sink. Anyway, it reminds him of the
promise ring that he originally gave her, which he won from a machine.In these
instances, the sentimental value of the ring outweighed the fiscal value.
In Buffy The Vampire Slayer, Angel gives Buffy a promise ring. When you wear
the ring with the heart pointing towards you it symbolises that you belong to
somebody. In this instance we have a ring that in itself is symbolic of the
promise and does not cost thousands of dollars.
So now that we’ve seen that almost anything can be a promise ring, how do you
pick the perfect promise ring? You can look for a ring that in itself has a
meaning, either culturally, or a meaning that the two of you will understand
and appreciate. When you propose with a promise ring, the meaning behind the
ring is what will make it valuable. As for how you do it, using the promise
ring in lieu of an actual ring seems to be the way to go. So, the classic one
knee will most likely suffice.
I would argue that in an engagement the fiscal value of the ring isn’t as
important as the love that the two share. Use of a promise ring should be the
same as a full engagement ring. I would however steer clear of foodstuffs and
perishables. After all, the engagement is about making a promise, that the
person you are proposing to is the person you wish to spend the rest of your